The Cutest Ways To Ask ‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’

Looking for inspired ideas to pop the question to your best girls? From cute bridesmaids cards to sweet surprises, these are the best and most unforgettable ways to ask your friends ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’.

It’s one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning and probably one of the very first things you thought about once you had a ring on your finger… who would become part of your bridal party. Whether you knew straight away who you’d love as your bridesmaids or if it was more of an agonising choice between a group of really good friends, you’ll want to make sure you ask these special ladies in your life to walk down the aisle with you in a memorable and heartfelt way. After all, it’s not just the sort of question you can ask in passing.

You’re telling these girls that they are extremely important to you and that you need their love and support on the biggest day of your life. Plus, you’re also bestowing a pretty awesome honour on them – the chance to walk down the aisle with you, feature in all the best pictures and plan and pull off an awesome hen party for you.

The good news is there are loads of lovely ways to pop the bridesmaid question these days that appeal to all wedding budgets and types of friendships. Remember to consider how many bridesmaids you’re asking though before you get your heart set on some of these creative ways to ask. If you’re going big with 12 maids, you’ll probably just want to buy a personalised card for each of them, whereas if you’re just having one or two girls in your bridal posse you can afford to be a little bit more generous and consider something like a bridesmaid gift box or even an experience day.

We’ve rounded up the best ‘will you be my bridesmaid’ ideas, cards and gifts to help you make the bridesmaid proposal moment as special and memorable as possible…

How do you ask someone to be your bridesmaid?

Asking one of your besties to be your bridesmaid is an exciting moment and so you’ll want to give it some thought.

For brides who don’t like to make a fuss, it can be as simple as asking the question “will you be my bridesmaid?” over the phone or a cup of coffee. However, there are plenty of ways to make the question a lot more exciting.

You could send a personalised card with the all-important question through the post, have the question written on a cupcake, revealed on a cool scratch card or there are even gift boxes full of gorgeous items that have the question written on the lid when your friend opens it.

If you want to ask your bridesmaids in person, you could organise an afternoon tea or a spa day for you all where you ask your friends to be your bridesmaids altogether. It all depends on your budget and the relationship you have with your friends as to whether you want to keep it low key or to make a big thing of the moment.

The most important thing is to be clear about what you’re asking – “Would you do me the honour of being my bridesmaid at my wedding?” is a really eloquent and clear way of phrasing the question.

How far in advance do you ask someone to be your bridesmaid?

If possible it’s best not to leave this question too late as you’ll want your bridesmaids to support you and share in your excitement for the entire wedding planning journey.

That said, don’t ring up your friends minutes after you’ve been given your engagement ring. You need to carefully consider who you want in your bridal party – once you’ve asked a friend to be a bridesmaid you can’t change your mind!

Once you’ve planned a few key details like the wedding date and how many guests you’ll be having on the day it’s a good time to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. Depending on the length of your engagement, anything from a year to a few months before the big day is an ideal time to ask the bridesmaid question.

Make sure you ask all your chosen bridesmaids at the same time, so that no one feels left out or like they’re second best. If you want your bridesmaids to organise your hen party make sure you ask them in enough time to make sure it’s not too stressful to arrange. You’ll also need to make sure you have left enough time to sort out their outfits for the big day too.

If you’re trying to save as much money as possible for the big day and to put towards some lovely dresses for your bridesmaids then it can be a brilliant budget-friendly idea to ask your friend to be your bridesmaid via the medium of a card.

This doesn’t have to be a classic card from a shop, you can have all sorts of fun with personalised cards or cards with funny messages if you search online. Here are some of our favourite bridesmaids cards that will guarantee a wonderful reaction from your bestie when she opens the envelope!

Fancy doing something a bit more extravagant to show your mates just how amazing they are and how much you’d appreciate them being your bridesmaid? How about giving them a special ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’ gift? There are all sorts of bridesmaid gifts you could give that are specific to your friendship or there are lots of lovely gift ideas already created for this special occasion of popping the bridesmaids question…

Everyone loves the anticipation of opening a box to find out what’s inside. There are some really gorgeous bridesmaids boxes specifically for this special occasion on the market if you love this idea or you can get creative and make your own up including some fun clues and personalised presents that’ll help your friends guess what you’re about to ask them.

Asking your friends to be your bridesmaids doesn’t have to involve a gift or card, it can be lovely to do something special together instead. How about booking a surprise afternoon tea for your girls and then revealing that the reason for it is because you’re hoping this special group of girls will be your bridal party? We love BB Bakery’s vintage bus tour, which is perfect for a bridesmaid proposal.

The sky’s the limit when it comes to asking this question, quite literally you could even have a flypast with the words written on a banner at the back of the plane (budget allowing!!). Be creative and have fun with the question, after all, you’ll only get to ask your girls this important question once!

Some of our favourite surprises include

• booking a surprise spa day for you and your girls and then asking them to be your bridesmaids while you’re being pampered;
• going for a night out and asking the DJ to pop the questions for you as a special request;
• going for a wine tasting and asking your girls to help choose the wine for your wedding as their first task;
• booking a glamping or self-catering weekend and asking them over a meal and some drinks; or
• inviting them on a shopping trip and revealing that it’s to look for bridesmaid dresses when you’re there!