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Our Favourite ‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’ Gifts

Author: Hollie Bond

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Looking for inspired ideas to pop the question to your best girls? From cute bridesmaids cards to sweet surprises, these are the best and most unforgettable ways to ask your friends ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’.

It’s one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning and probably one of the very first things you thought about once you had a ring on your finger… who would become part of your bridal party. Whether you knew straight away who you’d love as your bridesmaids or if it was more of an agonising choice between a group of really good friends, you’ll want to make sure you ask these special ladies in your life to walk down the aisle with you in a memorable and heartfelt way. After all, it’s not just the sort of question you can ask in passing.

You’re telling these girls that they are extremely important to you and that you need their love and support on the biggest day of your life. Plus, you’re also bestowing a pretty awesome honour on them – the chance to walk down the aisle with you, feature in all the best pictures and plan and pull off an awesome hen party for you.

The good news is there are loads of lovely ways to pop the bridesmaid question these days that appeal to all wedding budgets and types of friendships. Remember to consider how many bridesmaids you’re asking though before you get your heart set on some of these creative ways to ask. If you’re going big with 12 maids, you’ll probably just want to buy a personalised card for each of them, whereas if you’re just having one or two girls in your bridal posse you can afford to be a little bit more generous and consider something like a bridesmaid gift box or even an experience day.

We’ve rounded up the best ‘will you be my bridesmaid’ ideas, cards and gifts to help you make the bridesmaid proposal moment as special and memorable as possible…

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‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’ Gift Ideas

Fancy doing something a bit more extravagant to show your mates just how amazing they are and how much you’d appreciate them being your bridesmaid? How about giving them a special ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’ gift?

There are all sorts of bridesmaid gifts you could give that are specific to your friendship or there are lots of lovely gift ideas already created for this special occasion of popping the bridesmaid’s question…

 

A Bridesmaid Gift Box

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£22.40 from Boohoo

Send your bridesmaids a beautiful pink box to ask the question, with a pair of silky pyjamas they can keep and wear.

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A Bridesmaid Satin Robe

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£17.60 from Boohoo

A gorgeous pink robe the bridesmaids can wear on the morning of the wedding day. You could always join in and purchase a bride robe!

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Bridesmaid Proposal Box

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£10 from Boohoo

A thoughtful gift for the bridesmaid to enjoy, she can even pop the drink open to celebrate the occasion.

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A Spa Day for 2

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£340 from virgin experience days

Why not pop the question during a trip away together? Relax and unwind at one of the spas featured on Virgin Experience Days.

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A Beauty Makeup Gift Set

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£46.00 from lookfantastic

If your bridesmaid is a glam lady, she will love this small gift set filled with makeup products! You could also pop the question inside the gift, so there is a double surprise when she opens the box.

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'Will you be my Bridesmaid?' Mug

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£17 from ASOS

A lovely sentimental and fun way to pop the question. She will receive a nice surprise as she finishes a cuppa. A special moment to remember.

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A Jewellery Bracelet

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£12 from ASOS

A keepsake for memories to come, they will be able to remember the day and question every time they look at the bracelet.

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Personalised Candle

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£14.99 from not on the highstreet

A natural soy wax candle, which is beneficial for the environment and the question! You can pick the scent and it has a wonderful long burning time of 25 hours.

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Biscuit Gift Set

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£25 from not on the highstreet

A yummy snack for the bridesmaid to be to tuck into! This treat can be personalised with the question and you could even enjoy the treat together or gift it to her house.

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Bridesmaid Secret Proposal Toiletry Bag

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£16.99 from not on the highstreet

The perfect memento for your besties to remember the big question every time they open the bag. A small bottle of champagne could even be included alongside a proposal card.

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Personalised 'Be my Bridesmaid?' Bottle Box

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£28 from not on the highstreet

A perfect way to ask the big question, with a personalised bottle box! They can celebrate the day and save the gorgeous keepsake for memories.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid Chocolate

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£14.99 from not on the highstreet

Any chocolate lover will adore this gift, including a personalised message and photo of you and the bridesmaid. The delivery of the question will be very tasty.

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'Will You Be My Bridesmaid?' Wedding Pencils

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£1.50 from not on the highstreet

A unique way to ask your best friends and family members to ask your bridesmaid proposal for the big day. Every wedding planning kit needs a pencil. Made in the united kingdom.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Personalised Papercut

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£22 from not on the highstreet

A memorable keepsake which can be personalised with your message and placed in an optional gold/brass photo frame.

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Personalised 'Be My Chief Bridesmaid?' Glass

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£23.75 from not on the highstreet

An optional glass style for the bridesmaid proposal gift, from whisky to champagne, the choice is yours.

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‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’ Cards

If you’re trying to save as much money as possible for the big day and to put towards some lovely dresses for your bridesmaids then it can be a brilliant budget-friendly idea to ask your friend to be your bridesmaid via the medium of a card.

This doesn’t have to be a classic card from a shop, you can have all sorts of fun with personalised cards or cards with funny messages if you search online. Here are some of our favourite bridesmaid’s cards that will guarantee a wonderful reaction from your bestie when she opens the envelope!

Will You Be My Bridesmaid Proposal Card

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£4.95 from not on the highstreet

A luxury foil-embossed gold and pastel grey card with the big question. Perfect for a best friend.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid Personalised Treat Card

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£12.50 from not on the highstreet

A very delicious card with a twist! Pop the question with a choice of cake inside or even a small bottle of wine. There are also vegan options available to cater for all.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid Card Floral Chalkboard

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£3.50 from not on the highstreet

A card with a twist, chalkboard themed and floral.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Embroidered Heart Card

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£3.99 from not on the highstreet

Keep it simple with this simple design, a lovely sequin heart embroidered onto the card adds a pretty design.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid Card With Circle Decoration

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£12 from not on the highstreet

A suggested message makes it easier to pop the question with this card. The silver string is also included so the card can be kept as a keepsake for the bridesmaids to look back on.

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Gold Foil Will You Be My Bridesmaid Card

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£3 from not on the highstreet

A more traditional and thoughtful card for any brides who like to stick to their traditions. A sentimental card for the big day.

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Will You Be My Bridesmaid White Floral Card

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£2.99 from not on the highstreet

A lovely watercoloured floral card for an artistic touch. The optional string and washer envelope also come in optional colours. This gives a vintage look to the card and it can be posted directly to the bridesmaid-to-be.

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Bridesmaid Or Best Man Telegram

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£14 from not on the highstreet

Going for a vintage or old-fashioned look for the wedding day? Why not opt for a telegram-style card with a personalised handwritten message?

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Will You Help Me Be My Bridesmaid Greetings Card

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£2.99 from not on the highstreet

A fun card to give to your best friend with a sense of humour, they will laugh with this one!

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Personalised Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Flowers Card

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£3.50 from not on the highstreet

A bold and beautiful card with watercolour, which can be personalised to your liking. A lovely card to look at on the mantlepiece.

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‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’ Gift Boxes

If you’re feeling extra generous, bridesmaids’ boxes are always a fantastic option to pop the big question to your nearest and dearest! And the best thing is, that you can personalise each box to suit each member of your bridal party. Not a fan of candles? No problem! Take a few things from this list (plus a couple of other personal items if you want to) and pop them in a pretty box, there’s no way they’ll say no!

‘Will You Be My Bridesmaid?’ Surprises

Asking your friends to be your bridesmaids doesn’t have to involve a gift or card, it can be lovely to do something special together instead. How about booking a surprise afternoon tea for your girls and then revealing that the reason for it is because you’re hoping this special group of girls will be your bridal party? We love BB Bakery’s vintage bus tour, which is perfect for a bridesmaid proposal.

The sky’s the limit when it comes to asking this question, quite literally you could even have a flypast with the words written on a banner at the back of the plane (budget allowing!!). Be creative and have fun with the question, after all, you’ll only get to ask your girls this important question once!

Some of our favourite surprises include

  • Booking a surprise spa day for you and your girls and then asking them to be your bridesmaids while you’re being pampered
  • Going for a night out and asking the DJ to pop the questions for you as a special request
  • Going for a wine tasting and asking your girls to help choose the wine for your wedding as their first task
  • Booking a glamping or self-catering weekend and asking them over a meal and some drinks
  • Inviting them on a shopping trip and revealing that it’s to look for bridesmaid’s dresses when you’re there!

How Do You Ask Someone To Be Your Bridesmaid?

Asking one of your besties to be your bridesmaid is an exciting moment and so you’ll want to give it some thought.

For brides who don’t like to make a fuss, it can be as simple as asking the question “will you be my bridesmaid?” over the phone or a cup of coffee. However, there are plenty of ways to make the question a lot more exciting.

If you want to ask your bridesmaids in person, you could organise an afternoon tea or a spa day for you all where you ask your friends to be your bridesmaids altogether. It all depends on your budget and the relationship you have with your friends as to whether you want to keep it low key or to make a big thing of the moment.

The most important thing is to be clear about what you’re asking – “Would you do me the honour of being my bridesmaid at my wedding?” is a really eloquent and clear way of phrasing the question.

How Far In Advance Do You Ask Someone To Be Your Bridesmaid?

If possible it’s best not to leave this question too late as you’ll want your bridesmaids to support you and share in your excitement for the entire wedding planning journey.

That said, don’t ring up your friends minutes after you’ve been given your engagement ring. You need to carefully consider who you want in your bridal party – once you’ve asked a friend to be a bridesmaid you can’t change your mind!

Once you’ve planned a few key details like the wedding date and how many guests you’ll be having on the day it’s a good time to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. Depending on the length of your engagement, anything from a year to a few months before the big day is an ideal time to ask the bridesmaid question.

Make sure you ask all your chosen bridesmaids at the same time, so that no one feels left out or like they’re second best. If you want your bridesmaids to organise your hen party make sure you ask them in enough time to make sure it’s not too stressful to arrange. You’ll also need to make sure you have left enough time to sort out their outfits for the big day too.

So keep this list in mind, and good luck!!!

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Written by

Hollie Bond

Hollie is a lifestyle journalist with over ten years’ experience working in the wedding industry as Lifestyle Editor for You & Your Wedding magazine Also a Regional Editor for Muddy Stilettos, Hollie has written for Square Meal magazine, Family History Monthly, BBC History magazine and Homes & Antiques. In her spare time you can find Hollie in a dance studio practising ballet…

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