If You’re Going to Propose, Please Read This First
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Engagement season is officially upon us – and whether you’re the one doing the proposing, the one hoping to be proposed to, or the friend who’s been “casually” asked for ring inspo screenshots, this one’s for you.
There’s something about the colder months that makes popping the question feel extra magical. Maybe it’s the cosy vibes, the excuse for champagne at any hour, or the fact that fairy lights make everything feel more romantic. Whatever it is, proposals are coming in hot, and we’re here to talk about how to do it right. (And yes, if you’d like to subtly point someone in the right direction… feel free to send them this. We won’t tell.)
First Things First: There’s No One “Right” Way to Propose
Gone are the days when proposals had to look one specific way. Big, small, public, private, meticulously planned or beautifully spontaneous – the best proposal is the one that feels right for you both.
Before you get lost in Pinterest boards and TikTok spirals, ask yourself:
Are you more low-key or all-out?
Would your partner love a crowd – or absolutely hate it?
Is this about the moment itself, or the memory you’ll look back on in 20 years?
From there, everything else becomes a lot easier.
The Different Types of Proposals (And Why They All Work)
The Grand Gesture
Think sweeping locations, styled set-ups, maybe even a photographer hidden in the bushes. These proposals are cinematic, emotional and unforgettable – perfect for couples who love a little drama (the good kind).
The Intimate Moment
Just the two of you, somewhere meaningful. A quiet garden, a private room, a walk you’ve done a hundred times before – but now it means everything. Simple doesn’t mean boring; it means intentional.
The In-Between
Not massive, not minimal. Maybe close friends nearby, a planned moment during a weekend away, or a beautiful setting or venue without the production turned up to eleven. A sweet spot many couples fall into.
As with most things on For Better For Worse, there’s no right or wrong here. A proposal in your living room can be just as special as one in a historic estate, it’s all about thought and effort.
Location, Location, Location
No pressure but where you propose sets the tone, and choosing the right place can elevate the whole experience.
Some popular options include:
A meaningful venue (where you had your first date, anniversary dinner, or favourite weekend trip)
A destination proposal (perfect if you love to travel or want a little privacy)
A wedding venue you already love (hello, efficiency)
A venue that offers proposal packages (stress levels: reduced)
This is where choosing a venue that just gets proposals can be a game changer.
A Little Love for Froyle Park
One of the venues on our For Better For Worse directory that does proposals beautifully is Froyle Park – and honestly, it’s easy to see why.
Set in the Hampshire countryside, Froyle Park blends timeless character with a relaxed, modern elegance. Think sweeping grounds, detailed interiors and the kind of setting that feels special the moment you arrive. What makes it particularly great for proposals is that they offer dedicated proposal set ups, meaning you don’t have to plan every detail yourself.
Whether it’s a styled moment in the gardens, a private indoor space with candles and florals, or something a little more bespoke, they’re used to helping couples create meaningful, memorable moments – without turning it into a full-blown production unless you want it to be.
It’s the kind of place where the proposal feels thoughtful, elevated and romantic, but still very you. (And if you just happen to fall in love with it as a wedding venue too? We’re not saying that’s a necessity, but it does happen.)
How to Keep It a Surprise (Without Losing Your Mind)
Let’s be honest: surprising someone who knows you very well is never easy – but it can be done.
A few things worth thinking about:
Get help. A best friend, sibling or venue coordinator can be invaluable.
Keep it believable. If you never dress up for no reason, don’t suddenly suggest a black-tie dinner without your answers to their questions prepped.
Plan the ring holding logistics early. Pockets, boxes, bags – think this through.
Book a photographer discreetly. Many venues can recommend someone who knows how to stay hidden until the moment.
And remember: a surprise doesn’t have to mean shock. Plenty of proposals are expected in theory, just not in that exact moment – and that’s usually the perfect balance.
Engagement Season Is Calling
From November through Valentine’s Day, proposals spike for a reason. The atmosphere is romantic, diaries are quieter, and there’s something about starting a new chapter as the year turns that feels symbolic.
If you’re planning to propose during engagement season, our advice is simple:
Book venues early
Don’t overcomplicate it
Focus on what will make your partner feel loved, seen and celebrated
Do Your Research
Our For Better For Worse directory is full of venues that would make incredible proposal locations – from grand estates to hidden gems.
If there’s a venue you already love, reach out and ask. You might be surprised how many are happy to help you create something special, even if proposals aren’t listed front and centre on their website. Sometimes all it takes is the right question.
Final Thoughts (And a Gentle Nudge)
At the end of the day, a proposal isn’t about perfection – it’s about intention. It’s about choosing a moment that reflects your relationship and kicking off the next chapter with meaning and joy.
And if you’re reading this thinking, ‘Wow, this would be a great proposal’ – feel free to send it to the very person who needs to see it.
Subtlety is overrated anyway…